So What Does Emotional Intelligence Look Like In Real Life?
By Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach, Thu Dec 8th

1.High IQ, Low EQ: A student.

There’s a story going around the Chicago area about a student atthe U. of Chicago last year. At that venerable high-IQinstitution, it’s still a graduation requirement that eachstudent pass a swimming test. A student showed up to take thetest and, 3 hours later, after they’d dragged him out of LakeMichigan and the EMS had left, they asked him why he’d shown upto take the test when he didn’t know how to swim.

”I read about it,” he said.

2.High IQ, Low EQ: Frank.

Ph.D. in Engineering, designs military defense systems for thegovernment, has a net worth in the millions, and top securityclearance, and is on his 5th wife.

3.Average IQ, High EQ: Dr. Bob

Bob has an IQ of 125, low for a physician. He was toldrepeatedly he wasn’t med-school material, but his social skills,focus, and determination made his becoming a doctor a reality.And what a gift to the profession! He has a marvelous “bedsidemanner.” He’s grateful he can practice medicine – when was thelast time you encountered a physician with that attitude??

4.High IQ, High EQ: William Pickering, the Rocket Man.

Ph.D., Physics, CalTech. In 1957, when Russia launched Sputnik,Pickering was working for the Jet Propulsion Lab. In 2 months,the Naval Research Laboratory launched the Vanguard, which underthe glare of international media, blew up on the launch pad.

Fortunately, Pickering had been working since Sputnik on theirown satellite. ExplorerI was launched less than 4 months afterSputnik.

To bring this off, Pickering worked James van Allen, and Wernhervon Braun.

(What's that sound I hear? Egos colliding???)

Imagine the pressure and EQ it took to pull this off with thegovernment, the military and the American public breathing downtheir necks.

Which of these towering, credentialed geniuses got theleadership job? (And correct me if I’m wrong, but Einstein wasalso alive at the time.) The one with the EQ!

5.High IQ, Low EQ: John, a lawyer.

His girl friend, my client, became increasingly displeased withhis “cluelessness” and lack of demonstrative affection. Finallyshe lost her temper and yelled, “Can’t you just send me someflowers?”

”You don’t understand,” he replied. “I don’t know how to.”

6.Low IQ, Low EQ: Mike Tyson.

7.High IQ, Low EQ: Harry, a lawyer.

A lawyer I worked with. Told his secretary, a single parent with4 children under the age of 6 and no child support, who earned$28,000 a year, when her second-hand car broke down, “Well, ifyou’d just buy a new Lexus like I have …”

Were his office projects sabotaged? What do you think?

8.High IQ, High EQ: Ray Garrett, Jr., former chairman of the SEC.

The man under whom it all shook down after Watergate in the 70s.The stock market was at its all-time low.

He was interviewed live on “Wall Street Week,” the night beforehe deregulated stock commissions. Rukheyser, hoping to ^nailhim^, said, “And what will you do if this doesn’t work?”

Unflappable, Garrett shrugged and replied, “Try something else.”

9. High IQ, High EQ: Captain of the RCI’s Rhapsody of the Seas

Many seniors travel on cruises and when their poor eyesight andbad hips collide with a rocking ship, spilled beverages, andtendering, the results are predictable despite all caution. Lastcruise I spoke on, I watched the captain come down from thebridge to visit with a couple sitting poolside. He asked the manhow he was doing after his fall in the dining room, looked athis bruises, ordered drinks delivered, sat and visited.

I know your insurance company would tell you not to do this.

I worked in a law firm at one time and I heard it repeatedly,“If he had just apologized … If she’d even said she was sorry.”

I rear-ended someone 2 years ago. Just flat out didn’t hit thebrakes in time. The woman told me she had just recovered from aback injury and was scared. SHE was scared? I was PETRIFIED. Iasked her to follow me to a parking lot. I spent 30 minutes withher expressing my concern, calming her, offering to drive herhome, make phone calls, and saying how sorry I was to have addedto her stress.

Believe it or not, I never heard from her again.

10. Low IQ, High EQ: Jen, sales.

Jen never finished college. Her strengths on theStrengthsFinder™ are Positivity, WOO (Winning Others Over),Empathy, Communicator, Activator. This is not the profile of anintellectual. She makes 6 figures.

11.Unk. IQ, High EQ: Michael Jackson

A tricky one, but, EQ involves creativity, flexibility, andintuition (rather than purely cognitive rules and formulas) andfew have produced more hit singles than he. Consider hisresponses

to an interview:

S: “How do you write your songs?”

Michael: ”If I sit there and say I’m going to write abest-seller, nothing is going to happen…. The way I wrote BillyJean…I was in the car and I thought I’d like to make a song witha really cool base line, and I let it go. I just let go. A fewdays later, the beats just started playing in my head….Themistake many musicians make is that they get in the way of themusic. Get out of the way. Let the song write itself.”

S: “But if you don’t write it, where does it come from?”

Michael just shrugged, paused, and said, “Above.”

12. Unk. IQ, High EQ: Pearl Bailey

”There are two kinds of talents, man-made talent and God-giventalent. With man-made talent you have to work very hard. WithGod-given talent, all you have to do is touch it up once in awhile.”

Emotional intelligence is where emotions and thinking interface.Winners have high EQs and it can be learned. Why not starttoday!

About the author:Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach, offers individual coaching andInternet courses on emotional intelligence, strengths, optimism.Get there you want to go faster! www.susandunn.cc,mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine.